50 Shades of Grey

50 Shades of Grey

(It’s inevitable – at some point you must incorporate¬†50 Shades of Gray into your public writings. It’s my turn!)


Grey matter is the stuff that makes up your brain. Wikipedia says, “grey matter includes regions of the brain involved in muscle control, sensory perception such as seeing and hearing, memory, emotions, and speech.”

Essentially, (depending on how you look at it) grey matter is who you are.

In the workplace there is the team function in which different members make up that team. We know the importance of community but we also know that not everyone is the same. There are so many different shades of personality types, likes, preferences and such.

Differences create conflict. Conflict creates intimacy. Intimacy is critical for a healthy team to function.

I have seen in my own team experiences plenty of differences that have created conflict at some point. In the end, the team is actually stronger and more intimate because of the way we handled conflicts.

Conflict resolution consists of several different facets.

  • One must be humble – even if you think you are right
  • One must hear the other perspective. Anybody can express their point of view – a great leader will listen to different perspectives.
  • One must be willing to have grace for the others.
  • One must be willing to ask forgiveness if proven wrong.

    Resolving Conflict

So, you might have 50 shades of grey matter in your community (maybe more, maybe less). What are you doing to make sure your team functions in a healthy matter? Are you avoiding conflict because it’s easy or are you engaging conflict because it will make you stronger and better?

What other facets might be helpful as we engage in conflict resolution?